Hey guys
So I realized I needed to make up a blog and even though a life update won on Instagram, I thought it would be better to do those during milestone (1/4, 2/4, 3/4, 4/4 of 2019). If I do it that way to check in on how I'm doing with my goals, resolution, mental state etc. I would write those post in: March, June, September and December. The only time I'm not gonna do it one of those months is if something major happens but otherwise I want to keep to a schedule.
With that being said I thought doing this type of blog would be fun to do because it was category I didn't try yet. Also I got inspired to write about this topic after reading another blogger's post on make up and how she doesn't like it because she feels like people use it as a disguise to who they are. While that holds some truth to it in some cases, I don't think that is an accurate representation of it.
I used to hate make up and found it pointless until my former best friend got me into it . In some ways it gave my life meaning again. I used to be bullied to a point where I wanted to end my life and had a lot of scars from the self harm. However, once I got into make up, I replaced my scars with swatches.
It became empowerment for me.
In life, you don't have control of the color of skin your born with, how tall you grow or if people like you or not. People preach not to care what people think but how deeply do they follow it? A person have so many different sides to them but we will never see how they are alone.
Deep down everyone want to be cared about whether they want to admit or not .
Where I'm going this is I don't have control over a lot of things, but my appearances allowed me to have power.
That is why I work out.
That is why I dye my hair out of ordinary colors.
That is why I choose the clothes I wear.
Most importantly that is why I wear make up.
I am 100% aware there are people who wear it because they hate how they look without it but if it makes them confident and happy people shouldn't judge it and that is their choice so one thing that is so aggravating is hearing people say things "that girl shouldn't have that much make up on" or " which guy is she dressing up for"
First of all, assuming she is dressing up for a guy is beyond disrespectful. We live in the 21st century where different sexualities exist and a girl can just be meeting up with her girl squad to take some amazing pictures and make unforgettable memories.
Also it's her face and her decision what she does with it.
I am a firm believer of self love and body positivity but I also believe in doing what makes you happy as long as it isn't harmful to others. I believe a person should be doing things for them and their happiness.
I do have friends who don't believe in make up and I respect their decision because she respects the reason I wear it.
In my eyes, the only thing I have full control over at this point is my body. If I want myself to look a certain way, it is because it is what I want. I shouldn't be labeled as self hating because I wear color contacts, wear weave or wear make up.
I can be content leaving my house with no make up on, in glasses and sweats and I can be content wearing make up, in contacts and clothes that demonstrate my curves.
It's up to me what I feel like doing to myself and it shouldn't concern anyone because in what way is how I look harmful to them.
I'm really sorry if you didn't like this blog post or found it uninteresting because this was me ranting about make up. In spite of this blog being centered around make up, I felt like it also described self love, empowerment etc. I feel like these things are important to talk about especially in a world where people get ridiculed for appearances and if it not about things they decide to wear, it's for things they have no control over like a skin condition they were born with it.
It's so sad people still have to double standards that society such as people telling them to "be themselves" and then when they do that, people point out little things that should changes. So I guess the moral of this blog is: be who makes you happy, do what makes you happy. The only person who has to live with it is you and life is too short to change yourself for people who you won't have to deal with forever.
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Until next time,
Xoxo Lay💋