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Boost Your Confidence: Cultivating the Mindset for Summer

Updated: Jun 27





Summer is here, and you know what that means: it's time for Hot Girl Summer! Hot Girl Summer is a social media trend that started in 2019, popularized by rapper Megan Thee Stallion. If you're not familiar with this social media trend, don't worry - we've got you covered. While the trend gets a bad rep, it actually is a cultural phenomenon, inspiring women (and men, non-binary people, etc.) worldwide to embrace their inner Hottie and enjoy their summer to the fullest. For some that may be exploring or embracing their sexuality. For others, it is seen as a way to encourage people to be more adventurous and explore new things. This could mean trying a new hobby, going on solo dates or trips, or simply trying a new hairstyle. The idea is to step out of your comfort zone and experience new things. When it comes down to it, the foundation of it is confidence and doing the things that make you feel like you’re LIVING and not just existing.


However, before the official start of summer on June 21st (in America), it's crucial to address the mental aspect of Hot Girl Summer. While many people focus on physical appearance during this time of year, it's important not to forget about developing a mindset that allows you to fully embrace the Hot Girl Summer lifestyle. Leading up to this time of year, people are often too focused on how they look on the outside and forget about the importance of cultivating a mindset that will enable them to live their best life.


In this post, we'll provide a list of ways to prepare for the mindset shift. It's essential to keep in mind that the ease of these adjustments may depend on where you are in your personal development journey. Whether you're just starting or have been on a personal development journey for a while, the tips we provide can help you cultivate the mindset you need to enjoy your Hot Girl Summer to the fullest. So, let's dive in and get started on creating the mental space you need to make this summer your best one yet!


Confidence Boosters vs Confidence Blasters



Confidence boosters are factors that promote a positive self-image and self-worth. Boosters can help to improve your confidence and overall mental well-being. On the other hand, confidence blasters are factors that can destroy a person's confidence. Blasters can negatively affect your confidence and make it difficult to embrace a fulfilling Hot Girl Summer. It's important to identify and address these blasters in order to cultivate a confident mindset for a fulfilling Hot Girl Summer.



Things that can boost a person's confidence include:

  • Positive self-talk

  • Celebrating personal accomplishments

  • Being surrounded by positive and supportive people

  • Practicing self-care

  • Setting achievable goals and celebrating progress

  • Embracing individuality and uniqueness

  • Trying new things and stepping out of one's comfort zone

  • Focusing on personal growth and development


Things that can destroy a person's confidence include:

  • Negative self-talk

  • Comparing oneself to others

  • Criticism and judgment from others

  • Past failures or mistakes

  • Fear of failure or rejection

  • Lack of support or encouragement

  • Unrealistic expectations or goals

  • Perfectionism


These are foundational things but what boosts and blasts a person’s confidence is completely defied by the individual. What can be a boost for one person, can be a blast for another. It is important to do the work to create your own confidence boosters and blasters.


Which of the following confidence blasters affects you the most?

  • Negative self-talk

  • Comparing oneself to others

  • Criticism and judgment from others

  • Fear of failure or rejection


Developing your self-concept


Self-concept is a multifaceted construct that encompasses a range of beliefs, attitudes, and perceptions that an individual has about themselves. It is a complex combination of various factors, such as self-esteem, self-worth, and self-image. An individual's self-concept is influenced by various experiences throughout their life, including their upbringing, social interactions, and personal achievements.


Having a positive self-concept is crucial for cultivating the confidence and mindset necessary to fully embrace Hot Girl Summer. A positive self-concept includes having a healthy level of self-esteem and self-worth, as well as a positive self-image. People with a positive self-concept tend to have a more optimistic outlook on life, are more resilient in the face of challenges, and are more likely to take risks and try new things.

On the other hand, individuals with a negative self-concept may struggle with low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness, and negative self-talk. This can make it difficult to cultivate the confidence and mindset necessary to fully embrace Hot Girl Summer.

Developing a positive self-concept requires having a healthy level of self-esteem and self-worth, as well as a positive self-image. It's important to focus on your strengths and accomplishments and to be kind and compassionate to yourself. Practicing self-care and setting achievable goals is also helpful in cultivating a positive self-concept. It's also important to challenge negative self-talk and limiting beliefs and to surround yourself with positive and supportive people who encourage and uplift you.

Here are some of my tips:


1. Focus on your strengths and accomplishments


Focusing on your strengths and accomplishments is a key aspect of developing a positive self-concept. By recognizing and celebrating your achievements, you can build a sense of confidence and self-worth that will carry over into other areas of your life. Especially when things are not going the way we want in life, it is easy to start bad-mouthing yourself or cursing the universe which completely takes away from your sense of self. Remember, you have good qualities that are worth seeing, and appreciate the good things that have happened because then it’s confirmation more of that will happen for you.


2. If you analyze your weaknesses, approach them with kindness and compassion


This is an expansion of the first point. Often, we are our own worst critics, and it's easy to be hard on ourselves when we don't meet our own expectations or fall short in some way. Instead of beating yourself up over your weaknesses, try to view them as opportunities for growth and improvement. Remember that everyone has weaknesses, and it's okay to not be perfect. Weak points in yourself and failures can be used to create opportunity and redirect give you more direction if you want it to. Instead of dwelling on your shortcomings, focus on what you can do to improve that skill or your happiness. Set small, achievable goals for yourself and celebrate your progress along the way. Remember that progress, not perfection, is the goal.


3. Do shadow work to explore your inner self



Grab your journals and try some examples:

  • When do you feel most confident? What factors contribute to this feeling?

  • When do you feel least confident? What factors contribute to this feeling?

  • Are there any patterns or themes in your confidence boosters and blasters?

  • How do your confidence boosters and blasters relate to your past experiences and relationships?

  • What negative beliefs or self-talk do you need to let go of in order to cultivate a more confident mindset?

  • What positive beliefs or self-talk do you need to embrace in order to cultivate a more confident mindset?

  • Are there any new experiences or challenges you can pursue to boost your confidence and overcome your blasters?



4. Look for the things that cause negative self-concept, cut them out of your life, limit their access to you and if that’s not enough, create coping mechanisms that can help you when you are experiencing them


This goes for friends, family, and any unhealthy environment. If there are people or situations in your life that consistently bring you down and negatively affect your self-concept, it may be necessary to remove or limit your exposure to them. This can be difficult, especially if these people or situations are a significant part of your life, such as family members or a job or school. In these cases, it may be helpful to create coping mechanisms that can help you maintain a positive mindset and protect your confidence. These coping mechanisms can include practicing positive self-talk, finding a support system of positive and uplifting individuals, engaging in self-care activities, and setting healthy boundaries. Remember that it's okay to prioritize your mental health and well-being.


Affirmation ideas


To end off this blog post I thought it would be a good idea to share some of the affirmations in y chart relating to identity, confidence, and self-concept. There are some of my favorites but they are also ones I found that resonated with me and my personal struggles. For instance, I love creating and a los love my ideas and thoughts and opinions being put out in the world along with research to back it up or stories to explain why I am feeling that way. I like those things being seen but at the same time putting myself out there to do things feels terrifying and I start to doubt myself, my competence, and my worth. Having a list of things to tell myself when those moments of insecurity creep up on me, I prepared to have things to combat it. Make sure you are intentional with your choices because sometimes that little nasty discouraging voice will have a lot to say but what matter is making sure your confident voice is louder.


  • I deserve to take up space

  • I don’t see other girls (people) as competition because we are all so beautiful and lovely in our own way

  • I am unforgettable

  • I always get what I want because I said so

  • I am worthy of being seen and heard

  • My voice matters

  • I am unaffected by the negativity of others

  • I am gifted

  • Every photo of me is a masterpiece

  • My beauty is mesmerizing

  • I get the desired result no matter what I feel like

  • I am so charming everyone wants to get to know me

  • Access to me is exclusive

  • I deserve all the best

  • I stand firm in my identity because my identity is the best


There’s more coming for this guide and excited t have these reminders up to look at all summer because, by fall, I want to really like I am living again and not just existing or cosplaying as someone who makes me miserable.


Hot Girl Summer is not just a social media trend, but a mindset and lifestyle that encourages individuals to step out of their comfort zones and experience new things. To fully embrace Hot Girl Summer, it's crucial to cultivate a confident and positive mindset that allows you to enjoy the season to the fullest. This includes identifying confidence boosters and blasters, developing a positive self-concept, and practicing affirmations that support your confidence and self-worth. By focusing on your strengths, setting achievable goals, and surrounding yourself with positive and uplifting people, you can create the mental space you need to make this summer your best one yet. So go ahead and embrace your inner Hottie, challenge yourself, and have a fulfilling Hot Girl Summer!


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Until next time,

xoxo Lay 💋


Psst,

Part 2 of this guide is up: Click to learn about actions and activities to have the most fulfilling summer.



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