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4 Reasons why love languages are important (Blogintines Day 2)


Love languages have been a hot topic, especially amidst the pandemic. There have been countless relationships Tik Tok pages (more than I can count) that spoke about this. I am going to start this post by saying many people hate this topic because they say there is no real science behind it and that the person who made it didn’t conduct any experimented therefore it’s non-evidence-based.


Even though it may not be evidence-based...


Here are reasons you should try love languages out


1. It forces you to have intimate conversations


Intimacy is necessary for healthy long-term relationships. Some people have intimacy issues and that’s something that needs to be worked out with a therapist because usually, it stems from other issues.


One problem with relationships is after a certain point some people stop putting effort into the relationship due to the assumption that a person that they “know” their partner. However as people move to a new stage, they change and the majority of the time what they will prioritize will too. So having that conversation about what you need in order to feel like the relationship isn’t unbalanced and that all involved are satisfied.


2. Some people may not share your vision of love or may not have good representation, so this shows them


I probably said this 1 million times on this blog site but not everyone has the same idea of love as you. If I never said it I’m saying it now because the sad thing is some people grow up with toxic family members they see people they look up to getting hurt and they mistake that for someone showing love because that’s what the generational trauma taught them. They see things in media and think it’s OK to replicate because in the end they always go back to each other and it’s sad…it’s toxic.


That is why there needs to be healing done and once the healing is done then there needs to be a conversation of what love looks like and it’s not supposed to come from a place of what they think it looks like but what they need.


If they had some representation of love that was healthy in their lives growing up, that won’t mean it would look like what your parents, grandparents, etc. way of love. It’s odd to say but our first examples of love don’t come from books, movies, or shows but our surroundings. Every household is different.



3. It forces you to look inward to learn more about yourself and your values within different relations (showing you the bare minimum for people)


A lot of people accept things that should be considered bare minimum because they didn’t look into themselves to figure out what is the standard for them. A lot of times people just settle to avoid being lonely.


I don’t just mean in romantic relationships, it can be with anyone that you are accepting less than what you deserve. In any relationship where a person is seeing you from who they assume you are, doing what they think is best for you, and ultimately not taking the time or effort to truly see you, is just lonely.


4. Love languages can better your relationship with yourself


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Sometimes your needs don’t need to be fulfilled by another person. This can help you figure out what makes you feel loved and apply those things as a part of your personal development journey.


Overall the point of love language is to improve communication. Even if there isn’t a science behind it, it’s a strategy that can be applied to different aspects of wellness, including those aspects that just revolve around you.


Thank you for reading and if you have anything you want to see more of, be sure to comment suggestions or email me. Remember to subscribe to my Youtube channel, and follow my Instagram and Twitter to connect and stay up to date. I am excited about my next blog post so make sure you come back. Until then, there’s a lot more content on my youtube channel. I hope you have a good day, evening or night.


Until next time,

xoxo Lay 💋


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