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How to reset during MASSIVE changes in your life

Episode No. 6

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What Inspired this Episode:

The inspiration for this episode was a change in course after I got a new job. Before this episode, I was posting my ins and outs for the summer; now it's almost officially fall. August I took a break from creation so I could adjust to that new aspect of life and now I wanted to provide an update because I was no longer working within different time zones with my boss. I had so many changes within just one month and I figured with it being the end of September talking about changes and how to reset yourself after a while of being in autopilot mode seemed to be a good idea.

Questions I wanted to explore:

  • What is the best way to reset when there are so many changes in your life?

  • What exactly is a monthly reset and why is it important?

  • How can I effectively implement a monthly reset into my routine?

  • How can a monthly reset help me manage major life changes?

  • What are some activities I should include in my monthly reset?

  • How does a monthly reset contribute to personal growth and development?

  • How can a monthly reset improve my productivity and focus?

  • How does the lunar living approach tie into monthly resets?

  • What is the difference between resetting, resuming, and restarting?

  • How can a monthly reset help me handle emotional or mental health issues?

  • What are some potential challenges of implementing a monthly reset and how can I overcome them?

  • Can a monthly reset help in managing stress and improving work-life balance?

  • What role does goal setting play in a monthly reset?

  • How can I measure the effectiveness of my monthly reset?

  • Can a monthly reset help me develop better habits?

  • How can a monthly reset support my career or professional development goals?

  • What tools or resources can aid the monthly reset process?

  • What's the role of reflection and review in a monthly reset?

  • How does a monthly reset enhance emotional awareness?

  • Can a monthly reset improve my time management skills?

  • How can I incorporate self-care activities into my monthly reset?

  • How does a monthly reset help in achieving long-term goals?

  • How does a monthly reset assist in maintaining a balanced lifestyle?

  • What's the significance of setting intentions during a monthly reset?

  • How can a monthly reset help in dealing with feelings of overwhelm or burnout?

  • How can I adapt the concept of a monthly reset for students or people with unconventional work schedules?

  • What are some ways to keep track of progress and achievements during a monthly reset?

Episode Description:

Alayjah returned after a MASSIVE change in her life. First-year not going back to college, first year with not preparing to go back to school, a new job with inconsistent scheduling, and important people moving away, not to mention the nightmare has all caused an uproar in routine. In this episode of the podcast, she gives her personal tips and tricks for resenting in a season of massive changes. Whether you are experiencing changes due to the new school year, starting a new job, or moving to somewhere new this podcast will act as a guide to keep you grounded!

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Introduction + Card pull


This is the first episode in a while; I Started a new job Cardpull = Capricorn New moon Started another podcast (group one) Inconsistent Scheduling 1st August not going back to school Focus- Resetting after

The ideas/ tips to reset


[1] Rearrange your space [2] A Journaling Session to understand what's wrong/introspective work [3] Find a support system [4] Make plans for your systems

Wrapping up the episode


Find my way with creating Change in confidence by talking Time management

What I'm grateful for


Having the time to create again

Challenge of the week/ journal the week


A list of changes in your life Color code the change Chose 3 colors to match with the key

List of research sources/ References:

BONUS CONTENT- General Monthly Reset list

Since this Podcast episode focused mostly on resetting, I wanted to create an official checklist for monthly resets. I had a blog post already dedicated to activity ideas, but I've been watching a lot of reset videos. I wanted to see if there was a pattern to resetting every month because when I tried to I felt like without a list I was struggling to know how to conduct myself. I also decided instead of keeping this to myself I would share with everyone my go-to way of setting myself up for success.

[1] Romanticize and Review the month you just had

This is something I recently started to do as blog posts. If you are more private then you can do this as a journal prompt but as of right now I like having this as content and I will keep track of the more private things or emotional things in my journal but this is what I included:

  • Theme of the month: This is usually something I choose in my previous 12-week year I have ideas on what I want to focus on and bring to life in that month. I also include the definition of the word to remind myself why I chose it in the first place

  • Favorite Memory of the Month: I realized something I did when I was a teenager was making sure to take more pictures and capture memories. I want to take the time to appreciate the fun I have. I found myself living in the past because I wasn't finding enjoyment in my present.

  • Overall mood: I like having emotional awareness and seeing if there is a pattern. Sometimes my mood is based on circumstantial things happening in my personal life. However, when everything is pretty neutral, I see things differently. For instance, the type of year I've been having had some stress but for the most part it is peaceful. I only felt in a bad mood end of January to mid-March. I still describe February as the month I had the lowest mood because it was like I had all these thoughts swarming in my head, but since June started I had felt my brain swarming the same way but it didn't put me in a bad mood. It's interesting to see patterns with emotions.

  • Biggest Lesson learned: When we recognize lessons, it shows we are aware and that we can grow from both our good and bad experiences.

  • Listing the things I've been loving: This was inspired by a bullet journal I saw on Pinterest. I loved the idea.

  • Listing the TV shows, books, and movies I consumed this month: I wanted to be more conscious of how much time I am using content consumption and if I am consuming content that inspires me or opens up my perspective.

  • What I worked on this month: This is more focused on the thing I tried in the month, unlike lessons learned this is more about focusing on my actions.

  • What I want to work on next: This is usually in terms of my creations but it can be skill development and things I want to experience.

[2] Set the vibes for the upcoming month

These are activities I recently started to do (aside from the motivation board):

  • Motivation Board: Essentially this is a mood board, but mainly for my phone. I don't want to change my year vision board on my desktop because I like to ensure I remember my intentions for the year overall. But I want to have a fresh perspective every month.

  • Creating a new Playlist: Recently, I've been enjoying making a playlist of the month on Spotify. I usually title it "POV: ________". I also change the photo to my motivation board of the month and in the description, I put affirmations.

  • Making a new Workout playlist on YouTube: I have to switch up my forms of movement to be consistent in doing my workouts daily. Having a playlist of workouts I want to do makes it easier so I don't spend time in the morning looking, and I can choose from a monthly list.

[3] Setting up your systems to manifest

I do not manifest before each month- Instead, I follow a lunar living approach. I only manifest on new moons and I spend those days deeply connecting to my spiritual side. Most new moon days have recently been within the 1st week of the month, starting in "Taurus season" this year.

  • Taurus New moon= May 7th

  • Gemini New moon= June 6th

  • Cancer New moon= July 5th

  • Leo New Moon= August 4th

  • Virgo new moon = September 3rd

  • Libra New moon= October 2nd

  • Scorpio New Moon = November 1st

  • Sagittarius New moon= December 1st

  • Capricorn New moon = December 30th

Capricorn moon is technically the only new moon at the end of the month for 2024 but I also think it's a good thing because then you can go into the new year with fresh manifestations that were more well thought-out. Following this system made me feel a lot more connected to my goals, but since each season had different themes I made sure that I had my notion templates for the month for my lunar living practice. This is the first year I am following through with my systems because I have time to distinguish they work for me and they are new so I am still feeling out what it looks like for each new moon practice. I try to make 4 templates per month- New Moon Day (when I manifest), Waxing Moon Check-in Points (there are about 3 during the waxing moon so there are 3 check-ins in one template; this I don't have to set up but I have to research the dates to do the check-ins), Full Moon Day (when I celebrate goals I completed and see what I want to continue with during the waning moon phase and things I want to let go of at that point) and the Waning Moon Check-in (same process as the waxing moon check-in).

[4] Refresh your space

This can be done by decluttering, rearranging your space, or switching out decor to match the season. Consider creating a tranquil environment that encourages productivity and relaxation. You can add indoor plants for a touch of nature, invest in ergonomic furniture for comfort, or use ambient lighting to create a soft, warm glow. Regularly cleaning your space can also help in maintaining a clutter-free environment, promoting mental clarity and focus. You can also set up dedicated zones for different activities - a quiet corner for reading, a comfortable workspace, and a cozy area for relaxation, adding a sense of organization and purpose to your space.

[5] Set no more than 3 goals to focus on in a month with clear deadlines

Never set too many goals at once. It can cause you to burn yourself out easily. Three is usually a good number but less is good too. If you want to only have one goal so you don't split your focus then do what works best for yourself. Everyone is in a different season and sometimes we have the space to on more and other times we don't.

[6] Research Energy boosting activities and interesting things to do for the month

This is what I would call feel-good productivity. Most people have the perception that for something to be productive, it has to be related to work or personal development. However, engaging in activities that boost your energy and make you feel good can be just as productive. This could include things like trying out a new hobby, visiting a place you've never been to before, or making time for leisure reading. Look for activities that you enjoy and make you feel excited and energized. This not only enriches your life experiences but also contributes to your overall well-being, which in turn enhances your productivity in other areas.

[7] Schedule things on the calendar

  • Maintenance days

    • Professional

      • Hair

      • Nails

      • Brow waxing or threading

      • Eyelashes

      • Facials

      • Massage

    • Self Maintenance

      • Wash hair

      • Nails

      • Skincare Mask

    • Chore days

      • The days that you go grocery shopping and/or order groceries

      • The days of the week that you do a deep clean or if you clean based on room you know which room you will focus on daily

  • Health days

    • Mental:

      • Any form of therapy falls into this category

      • Destressing activities

      • Relaxing days would also contribute to your mental health so I would put this here but I do think it's more important to set aside time daily to relax instead of constantly feeling like you need to be on to make your life better. This way you don't feel like you have to catch up on relaxing.

  • Solo days

    • These are just activities you want to do alone. It could be hobbies, traveling somewhere new, or anything you typically do with other people.

  • Quality time with friends and Family days

    • Sometimes making time for the ones you care for can boost your mood.

  • Dates (if you are looking to date or in a relationship):

    • I am not dating right now so most of my dates are solo but I know if you are in a relationship or looking to be in one, I know how important this could be.

  • Career-Boosting days

    • I would count these as work events, networking events, meetings, seminars, conferences, etc.

[8] Do some bookkeeping and organizational work

This step is more of the adulting category where you look at your bank statement for the month. Look at how much you earned that month, and how much you spent and see if you are falling in line with your budget.

In addition to bookkeeping, I would also plan meals because with the prices in grocery stores going up, it is important to choose foods for your health goals and plan things. strategically to eliminate things not being fully used and expiring.

Extra steps for the last month of your 12-week Year

If you start your 12-week year in January the months you would have to do this bonus step are: March, June, September, and November. I set up my 12-week year plan in these months. I have big goals for each 12-week plan that work on my long-term goals. I also consider what skills I want to develop in that time frame, which area of my life I want changes in, the books I want to read in that time frame, and when are the new moons and full moons, etc. Anything 12-week year related I try to get a start on.

Why Resets are so valuable

Embracing the concept of a monthly reset can serve as a powerful catalyst for personal growth, productivity, and overall well-being. It acts as a structured pause, a mindful intermission that allows us to review our past month's journey, celebrate our achievements, and learn from our experiences. This practice of reflection not only helps us maintain focus but also ensures a consistent alignment with our short-term and long-term goals. By providing a balanced approach to various life aspects, from professional growth to self-care and emotional health, the monthly reset becomes an invaluable tool in crafting a fulfilling life.

Understanding the nuanced differences between resetting, resuming, and restarting is vital in leveraging the full potential of a monthly reset. A reset, in essence, is a course correction. It’s an opportunity to reassess our current path, to take stock of what is working and what isn’t, and to make the necessary tweaks to realign with our aspirations. It's about redefining our approach while staying committed to our ultimate goal. Resuming, on the other hand, implies a continuation of our current path, picking up from where we left off, capitalizing on momentum, and staying the course. Restarting, meanwhile, is a more radical approach. It involves wiping the slate clean and starting anew, often signaling a significant change or shift in direction.

Recognizing when to reset, resume, or restart is an essential skill in our journey towards personal and professional growth. It’s about tuning in to our rhythms, acknowledging our progress and challenges, and making informed decisions that best serve our interests. This skill allows us to navigate our path with greater agility, resilience, and wisdom, enhancing our capacity to grow and evolve.

It's worth noting that some individuals might express reservations about the idea of resets. They may perceive it as a sign of constant shifts, instability, or even a lack of commitment. However, such a perspective overlooks the true essence and value of resets. Rather than indicating a tendency to jump from one thing to another, resets are about recalibration and realignment. They provide us with a chance to reevaluate, adjust, and fine-tune our journey, ensuring that we remain aligned with our goals and stay true to ourselves. They are not about inconsistency or instability but about adaptability and resilience.

Embracing resets does not signify a lack of commitment or focus but rather showcases our commitment to growth, self-improvement, and personal development. It's about being proactive in shaping our life, about being willing to make necessary changes, and about having the courage to question, reassess, and modify our path when needed. So, rather than shying away from resets, we should welcome them as a vital and empowering component of a balanced, productive, and fulfilling life. By integrating the practice of a monthly reset into our routines, we allow ourselves the space to breathe, reflect, and plan, setting ourselves up for continued success and satisfaction.


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