2018 was the best and worst year I ever experienced. I had unforgettable moments good as well bad. However I don’t regret anyone or anything I experienced because it taught me lessons I will carry with me for the rest of my life. The times I was hurt beyond words helped me grew and now I’m more cautious with who I spend time with, how I move in terms of my actions and what my priorities are.
1. Don’t rely on people for your happiness, you have to create your own
People aren’t consistent no matter how much you wish them to be. Sometimes they change, sometimes you change or the relationship just isn’t same anymore. Sometimes you get busy for each other but the care for the person is still there. Whatever the reason, the moral of the story is things happen that’s beyond your control. One the most important thing to remember is the one person who consistent in your life is you which means you have to do whatever you can to make your life enjoyable.
2. Some people are for life , others are for lessons
This goes back to the first thing I mentioned about people being inconsistent. Growing up people in media pushed the idea that to have a great life you need a lot of friends . The truth is as you grow up you realize it’s better to keep your circle small and have 2-4 friends that genuinely care . You can have as many friends as you want but how many are there for you . Remember quality over quantity when it comes to people .
3. There are such things as bad moments, bad days, bad weeks or even bad months but that’s not equivalent to a bad life
This goes back to the first thing I mentioned about people being inconsistent. Growing up people in media pushed the idea that to have a great life you need a lot of friends . The truth is as you grow up you realize it’s better to keep your circle small and have 2-4 friends that genuinely care . You can have as many friends as you want but how many are there for you . Remember QUALITY over quantity when it comes to people.
4. It’s okay to take mental health breaks
People dismiss someone for being concerned about their mental health as being weak and incapable of life. The truth is mental health is still apart of health and if one aspect of health isn’t right , you should do what you can to fix it . Everyone has different levels of pain and sometimes you need to do what you can to heal.
5. Nothing is constant and it works both ways
This relates to #3 on this list. Life is a balance. Good things happen and bad things happen as well. You can’t have one without the other. Good times happen and end and it horrible when it does but it works that way for bad things too. Change is inevitable so embrace it.
6. People are going to make comments on what you do regardless so might as well do things that make you happy
Just do what makes you happy. No matter what you do, there is always going to be at least one person who won't be happy with what you do. It is impossible to please everyone so you might as well try to please yourself as long as no one gets harmed from it.
7. Things take time
Patience is key. Things don't just happen over night. For things to get better , For you to find inner peace, For you to find yourself... it all takes times and it takes steps as well. They happen based on the decision you make and the habits you pick up. Keep trying no matter how much you want to quit.
8. Most things are beyond your control, besides you. Set your own morals ,discover your own philosophies and mold the person you want to be.
You can't control who loves you and who doesn't, you can't control how people see you, you can't control the things people do to you etc. Many things are beyond your control because the only thing you have power over is you. You choose who your friends are, you choose whether to be a leader or follower and you choose your beliefs. Your parents only have so much control over you until you are an adult. It's up to you to make good choices.
The lessons I learned connect to each other. I'm grateful for the year I had, even the bad moments and I can't wait to continue a new chapter of my life this upcoming year.
I'm a little rusty at writing because I haven't done it in so long but, stay tuned for the next blog!
Until next time,
xoxo Lay 💋